When Adoption is Like Mount Everest


We’re “on hold.”

After all the excitement these past couple weeks, our adoption process is officially on hold.

A lot can change in just a few days!

With the good news of our condo being under contract, I’ve been in touch with our social worker about what that means for our adoption process.  Of course we will need to get an inspection done of our new place when we move.  This is just a quick visit, as we learned before… but we don’t move until the end of the month, our social worker comes down to do the inspection in May, and then she has to update our assessment.

So she said we have two options:  We could either be put “on hold” temporarily until everything is updated, OR we could continue allowing them to show our profile book to expectant parents, knowing that, if we are chosen during this time, the baby would have to reside in interim care until everything is complete.

We would like to avoid an interim-care situation.  So we chose to be put on hold.  (Which means: no chance of getting the call about a baby until our waiting period picks back up again, at least until some time in May.)

It was kind of a tough thing to hear… especially when we had just become a waiting family.  But it all just means that God has a specific baby in mind that we’re not supposed to meet yet.  The timing is perfect because it’s His timing.  And truly… after a couple days into our “hold”… it’s really a blessing.  We can finally get settled somewhere, start a nursery, have what we need, and be more prepared.  So even though it’s unexpected — it’s exactly right.

They always said the adoption process is a roller-coaster ride.

Actually, I think it’s a lot like climbing Mount Everest…

A month ago in Nepal, our mission team was often mistaken for “trekkers.”  We’d state where we were from as we traveled around the country, mostly living out of our backpacks, and people would automatically assume: “Ah, trekkers.”  Being that Mount Everest is located in Nepal, along with a slew of other recording-holding Himalayan peaks, it’s a world-renowned destination for hiking and other outdoor adventures.  In fact, we actually met a guy on our connecting flight from Qatar to Kathmandu who was on his way to climb Base Camp 1.  We also spent time with someone on staff at Tiny Hands in Nepal who had done the same climb herself.


Heights outside of Pokhara.

One thing I had learned before is that, to climb Mount Everest, you can’t exactly go straight from the bottom up to the top (like one would assume: Point A to Point B).  You climb to Base Camp 1… and then you have to come all the way back down to the bottom.  Then you might do that yet again before climbing up to the next level… and then come all the way back down again.  It’s all about “climatization,” acclimating your body to the dangerously high altitudes.  When your body isn’t used to such heights, you can’t just survive in that environment all at once; you have to slowly acclimate.

The creeping up only to turn around and go straight back down seems frustrating and counterintuitive and inefficient.

But the thing is:

Even when you’re stopped or headed in the exact opposite direction… it’s still progress.  

You have to go through that process in order to make progress.

So here we are, seemingly being “held back,” when in the bigger picture — ultimately — we are moving forward.  Being under contract is exactly what we wanted to happen, and this “hold” is just a part of the process of the timing we’re in.

Necessary to get from here to there.

A part of our story that God is writing.

And if faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains… who’s afraid of a little altitude?



One response

  1. Emily and Trey from what you said and what we all know, God is in control and this will allow you to be so much better prepared for the baby we all can’t wait to meet and be part of our family. Prayers continue and as always our love to you.

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